Fai questa query
SELECT C.email AS mail_contatti, U.email AS mail_email FROM contatti AS C INNER LEFT user AS U ON C.email = U.email
Poi fai un ciclo
Tutto in grosso modo, affina l'idea come ti serve....Codice PHP:
while(tuo_result){ //rs
echo $rs->mail_contatti
if($rs->mail_contatti == $rs->mail_email){echo ' - mia_immagine';}
}