L'esempio che ho fatto è questo:

Pagina ASPX con i due UC: (ho usato una label sulla pagina principale per simulare il DB)
codice:
<form id="form1" runat="server">
    <div>
    <asp:PlaceHolder ID="ph1" runat="server"></asp:PlaceHolder>
    

</p>
    <asp:PlaceHolder ID="ph2" runat="server"></asp:PlaceHolder>
    </div>
    


    (Prodotti nella tabella carrello:
    <asp:Label ID="lbContaHidden" runat="server" Text="0" ForeColor="#cccccc"></asp:Label>)
</form>


    Protected Sub Page_PreRender(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles Me.PreRender
        Dim Novita As UserControl = LoadControl("due.ascx")
        ph2.Controls.Add(Novita)
    End Sub

    Protected Sub Page_Load(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles Me.Load
        Dim Shopping As UserControl = LoadControl("uno.ascx")
        ph1.Controls.Add(Shopping)
    End Sub
Usercontrol UNO (Listview che incrementa i prodotti in tabella):
codice:
<%@ Control Language="VB" AutoEventWireup="false" CodeFile="uno.ascx.vb" Inherits="usercontrols_uno" %>
<asp:Button ID="btnAdd" runat="server" Text="Incrementa" />

Partial Class usercontrols_uno
    Inherits System.Web.UI.UserControl

    Public n As Integer
    Protected Sub btnAdd_Click(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles btnAdd.Click
        n = CInt(CType(Me.Page.FindControl("lbContaHidden"), Label).Text)
        CType(Me.Page.FindControl("lbContaHidden"), Label).Text = CStr(n + 1)
    End Sub
End Class
Usercontrol DUE (Riepilogo del carrello):
codice:
<%@ Control Language="VB" AutoEventWireup="false" CodeFile="due.ascx.vb" Inherits="usercontrols_due" %>
IN CARRELLO:<asp:Label ID="lbConta" runat="server"></asp:Label>

Partial Class usercontrols_due
    Inherits System.Web.UI.UserControl

    Public prodotti As Integer

    Protected Sub Page_Load(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles Me.Load
        prodotti = CInt(CType(Me.Page.FindControl("lbContaHidden"), Label).Text)
        lbConta.Text = CStr(prodotti)
    End Sub
End Class
E le due labels sono perfettamente sincronizzate.