Puoi aprire direttamente media player e i vari parametri possono essere modificati come vuoi tu, dimensioni, controlli etc. etc.

codice:
<OBJECT ID=MediaPlayer CLASSID=CLSID:6BF52A52-394A-11D3-B153-
00C04F79FAA6 standby="Loading Microsoft Windows Media Player
components..." TYPE="application/x-oleobject" width="250" 
height="200">
  <PARAM NAME="url" VALUE="prova.wmv">"
  <PARAM NAME="AutoStart" VALUE="true">"
  <PARAM NAME="ShowControls" VALUE="1">"
  <PARAM NAME="uiMode" VALUE="mini">"
    <embed type="application/x-mplayer2" 
pluginspage="http://www.microsoft.com/Windows/MediaPlayer/" 
name="MediaPlayer1" width="300" height="260" src="prova.wmv" 
filename="prova.wmv" autostart="True" showcontrols="True" 
showstatusbar="False" showdisplay="False" autorewind="True">
    </embed> 
</OBJECT>